Audre Lorde — American Poet born on February 18, 1934, died on December 30, 1992

Audre Lorde was a Caribbean-American writer, radical feminist, womanist, lesbian, and civil rights activist. In her own words, Lorde was a "black, lesbian, mother, warrior, poet". Her poems and essays focused on civil rights issues, feminism, and the expression of black female identity. Lorde is best known for technical mastery and emotional expression in her poetry, particularly the poems which express anger and outrage at civil and social injustices she observed throughout her life. She was a champion of intersectional feminism, and life-long explorer of her own identity and the universal identity of African-American women. She died of liver cancer in 1992, at the age of 58... (wikipedia)

The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis for understanding much of what is not shared between them, and lessens the threat of their difference.
Poetry is not only dream and vision; it is the skeleton architecture of our lives. It lays the foundations for a future of change, a bridge across our fears of what has never been before.
It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.
I can't really define it in sexual terms alone although our sexuality is so energizing why not enjoy it too?
If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive.