Coming from an Asian culture, I was always taught to respect my elders, to be a better listener than a talker.
The advice of the elders to young men is very apt to be as unreal as a list of the hundred best books.
As human beings we value the experience that comes with age. We are reminded over and over again with statements like 'older and wiser' and 'respect your elders,' promoting age as something to be cherished and respected.
A good youth ought to have a fear of God, to be subject to his parents, to give honor to his elders, to preserve his purity; he ought not to despise humility, but should love forbearance and modesty. All these are an ornament to youthful years.
You seek help from the elders. A society with elders is healthy. It's not always that way in the West.