Eric Berne — American Psychologist born on May 10, 1910, died on July 15, 1970

Eric Berne was a Canadian-born psychiatrist who, in the middle of the 20th century, created the theory of transactional analysis as a way of explaining human behavior . Berne’s theory of transactional analysis was based on the ideas of Freud but were distinctly different. Freudian psychotherapists focused on talk therapy as a way of gaining insight to their patient’s personalities. Berne believed that insight could be better discovered by analyzing patients’ social transactions... (wikipedia)

The moment a little boy is concerned with which is a jay and which is a sparrow, he can no longer see the birds or hear them sing.
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