Marly Youmans — American Poet born on November 22, 1953,

Marly Youmans is an American poet, novelist and short story writer... (wikipedia)

What is a spouse for? Not to be your personal servant, certainly!
It is probably true that I would not have had as many children or mothers in my books without being a mother with children. It is definitely true that I would not have written about the Civil War without having a little guy who was obsessed with it.